Issues

WHEN WILL MY REFLECTION SHOW WHO I AM INSIDE?


It’s finally spring, y’all!

Whether you’re doing some spring cleaning or day drinking (or both) we’re all embracing the changing season. In a city like New York, change is the only constant. We’re trendsetters living in a melting pot of influences. The one thing that never goes out of style is your sense of self, but even our identities are ever-evolving. Self-love and acknowledging that we’re all works-in-progress go hand in hand.

In this season of rebirth, let’s strip away the layers of winter and step into the new season with a renewed sense of who we are — and who we want to be.

WIP with you,
Your 20s to be team

GETTING REAL

“Storytelling was my escape, especially growing up in a harsh environment in Houston, Texas. I lost my father when I was 5 years old, but I wasn’t able to properly mourn for him until I was an adult and started writing and performing a one man autobiographical show in his honor. Through this journey, I realized I was no longer ashamed of my background and I could be unapologetically black and authentic. I was finally leading not with my best self, but my whole self. I hope now to add to the artists from diverse backgrounds who are painting new pictures.”
Robert, 25, on finding his identity through storytelling.


“Growing up in China, I never realized the importance of race and ethnicity. I had never categorized myself as Asian before the US, because it was so instinctual. It was a default. After starting college in NYC, I met a lot of hyphenate Asians who struggle to learn about where they come from. Representation matters so much because you don’t know who you are until you see someone who looks like you. You need a lighthouse to guide you to move forward.”
Kally, 20, on building a stage for representation.


GETTING BY

  • Burnout: it’s a chronic millennial condition and presents differently for everyone. Here’s how to think about the experience through an intersectional lens.
  • Being a good ally means continuously educating yourself. Find out how to be a better ally in the workplace and beyond.  🤝
  • Impostor syndrome in NYC is a real thing — everyone seems like they have their shit together, but that’s not always true. We’ve found a few ways to combat it without feeling alone.
  • Food plays such an important role in identity since it can define culture. Here’s an awesome guide of delicious spots to eat in NYC that reflects our melting pot. 😋

BEEN THERE

In NYC, we all come from different backgrounds — race, ethnicity, religion, class, sex. This month, we’re exploring how to juggle our different identities.

DONE THAT

For this round, you’ve asked: “How do you navigate a misunderstood identity?”

Our favorite piece of advice was from Afraz, who said,

Navigating a misunderstood identity, especially as minority within society, is oftentimes a process of engaging with conflicting thoughts and emotions. There is a part of you that feels empowered by and confident in your identity because of how integral it is to your existence and another part of you that is struggling to understand all the misinformation and negativity that is ultimately delegitimizing what you know to be true for yourself.

For me, I found myself addressing this internal conflict by:
1. Seeking support and guidance from a mentor, who has traveled down a similar path carrying the identity(ies) I held close;
2. Embracing my role as an educator and fully living out my truths.

Through every moment that you are your whole self, whether it is around coworkers and friends or in front of thousands, you are slowly and surely dismantling the systems that have sought to define you as “other.”

Got a burning question to ask? Need some advice? Ask, and we will answer!

Hit us up for questions, comments, or whatever strikes your fancy at hey@20stobe.com.

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